What is love?

Every New Year we all come up with goals, visions and resolutions that we aspire to achieve. Could be career, body image, education or overall mental well-being. I am curious to know what your aspirations are this year.

We live in a world that preaches the importance of happiness. We make goals, do things in pursuit of this thing called happiness. We follow people who seem to have figured it out and are happy with the hope we will feel the same someday.  But what does it really mean to be happy?

Is it the presence of finer things in life? Is it the ratio of your waistline to your butt? Is it financial freedom? Level of education? Is it being in a loving relationship?

A friend of mine recently told me that the real “true love” is the love you will have when you have kids. I don’t know how true this is, guess I will have to be a mother first.
A lot of you reading this mostly are here because you either know me in person, loves my online appearance/personality or mostly loves my Relationship.

I see a lot of #truelove #relationshipgoals not only on my Instagram but also similar accounts. My question is, what does love mean to you? Is it being in synch with your partner emotionally, mentally and physically? Is it the passion? Undivided attention?

Is it the absence of betrayal? Or is it how you deal with it when it happens? Is it the absence of deal breakers?
Is it the expensive gifts or the little gestures? Is it the dream vacations or the candid moments at home? Is love the ultimate happiness?

I have pondered a lot regarding this topic and to be honest I don’t have an answer.

Tell me what true love is to you.




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6 thoughts on “What is love?

  1. Shyla, good point. Love is when you allow yourself to grow into a better person everyday and being kind to everyone.

  2. I echo the thoughts and words of Tess Heyes. Love should not downplay your dreams. Love should not fill your stomach with anxious knots. Love should not be a one-sided game. Love should not cause you to cry yourself to sleep yet again. Love should not treat your heart like a rest stop, coming and going as it pleases. Love should not make you lose your identity. Love should not drag you away from your loved ones. Love should not make you settle for half of who you’re capable of being. Love should not make you downgrade.

    No, love is none of these things. But, let me tell you what love is. Love should make your little quirks and characteristics be appreciated and adored. Love should keep you up until 2am talking about your aspirations and fears. Love should make you dance in the kitchen and throw cookie dough at each other from across the counter. Love should embrace your flaws and shower them in forgiveness and grace. Love should push you outside your comfort zone. Love should respect anyone and everyone that has a special place in your heart. Love should bring out the light that has always been within you, making it shine even brighter. Love should make you say, “So this is what God’s had in store for me all along”.

    Some may find this love at 16, some at 27, others at 55. There is no timeline for when you will experience this love, but there is a guarantee that the beautiful love you’re craving does exist. The person that will intertwine seamlessly with your soul is out there.

    However, it is also up to you to pursue this love. You will not find it by sitting at home on your couch every night or by staying in an unhealthy relationship or by going home with just anyone who will give you attention or by building your life based off of comfort and certainty. You will find it by picking up new hobbies, by introducing yourself to the person sitting next to you at the coffee shop, by not allowing anyone to treat you as ordinary, by making a reservation for one at that restaurant you’ve been wanting to try, by smiling at strangers on the street, by knowing your own worth and walking away from anything that doesn’t measure up to this.

  3. Greater love has no man than this. That a man lay down his life for his friend(s). That is true love. To forget yourself and put the needs of the other person first. It is the hardest but also the most fulfilling love.

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